Live fully and flexibly
I want to acknowledge that getting to this point in my career wasn’t easy and it took a lot of hard work. Whether we like to admit it, navigating the corporate world comes with inherent hurdles and responsibilities on both the professional and personal fronts. But nothing should stand in the way of having the best possible life experience through every phase of the marathon, while avoiding the wall. For context, a marathon is 26.2 miles and the wall is generally felt at mile 20, where runners often have to make hard choices — to either run to the finish, walk or quit. In our career, the wall can come any time without the right conditioning and mindset.
This is what avoiding the wall looked like for me. I made the career choice to become a Chartered Accountant and join a Big 4 firm. This was the choice that I judged would open the most doors to me professionally. As a single professional I ran the first part of my life marathon savouring the experiences, exploring career twists and turns, learning every step of the way and having a lot of fun. In running this is called the social run, the first 10 miles of the marathon. No wall in sight.
After having my twins, I worked part time for almost three years. It was my choice to go back to work and still be present enough for my young boys. While many, including me at times, would have thought taking the time off would hinder my career, it paid dividends. It taught me to enjoy the moment, to take calculated risks, own my choices and appreciate the support the firm could offer. I came back with the energy to move mountains — and a plan to go with it. At this point, I’m closing in on mile 20. In a marathon, this is called the transition. Still no wall in sight.
In the third phase of my marathon, I faced much tougher challenges. Leading a fantastic, high-growth business through a pandemic while taking care of my ailing mother after my father passed suddenly, only to lose her a few months later. While it’s been extremely difficult, I’m grateful to be a partner in a large, caring family ready to rally when I needed it.
The last two years are a story of rapid adaptation for us all, of turning adversity into opportunity. A story where flexibility took on a new definition, where authentic leadership and emotional intelligence became the most important assets one can have. I’m now at mile 21, in the last stretch of the marathon called full focus. I’ve chosen to continue running. No wall in sight. Still having fun. Feeling at the top of my game.
My takeaway: living fully and flexibly is an everyday practice. There are life and personal choices needed to achieve the right balance — and you own each of these choices. Many women share equivalent journeys, while others are still trying to find their passion and path. Please tell your story. It could help other women avoid the wall and live their fullest life.
And if you have any doubt that consulting is a great career and one that can ebb and flow with your life rhythms, you know where to find me.
What’s the most daring leap you took to get to where you are today? Learn more about a career in consulting at www.ey.com/en_ca/consulting.